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Kathy Labriola

Polyamorous Elders: Aging in Open Relationships

Polyamorous Elders: Aging in Open Relationships If polyamory is new or unfamiliar to you, you aren’t alone! Until a few years ago, most people who practiced any relationship style other than monogamy were very discreet and kept their polyamorous lives private. Nonmonogamous relationships were treated with disapproval at best, or fear and contempt at worst. Recently there has been more media attention on these less traditional relationship forms and more poly people have “come out

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Stella Fosse

4 Ways You Can Be Fit Old and Fat

4 Ways You Can Be Fit Old and Fat My friend Nancy is in her eighties and obsessed with her weight. A small woman, Nancy is intent on becoming even smaller. She meets with a nutritionist and restricts her calorie intake, believing that this will improve her health and prolong her life. At lunch she judges her own food choices and what others are eating. Although she is ambulatory, Nancy moves very little. The idea

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Patricia Grayhall

Defying Norms in Love and Medicine

Making the Rounds: Defying Norms in Love and Medicine In 2022 we featured guest essays by several women memoirists. These blogs are windows onto lives lived in parallel with ours.  Billie Best gave her perspective on caring for a dying philanderer when she wrote about her book, How I Made a Huge Mess of My Life, or Couples Therapy with a Dead Man. Carolyn Arnold shared the genesis of her memoir, Fifty First Dates After

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Stella Fosse

Women, Age, and Money

Women, Age, and Money My grandmother was a young woman during the Great Depression. From that era forward, regardless of her circumstances, she counted every penny. At the grocery store, she inspected each green bean to make sure it was worthy before adding it to her cart. When my grandmother was in her nineties and needed to move to a care home, she had to spend down the last of her money to qualify. She

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Deanna Raybourn

Invisibility As A Superpower

Invisibility As A Superpower Deanna Raybourn’s new novel, Killers of a Certain Age, is everything a crone could hope for in a tale about a trio of sixty-something women assassins. As Raybourn says in our interview below, “I was supposed to be writing women doing unexpected, cool, badass things and working as assassins was the most unexpected, cool, and badass thing I could imagine.” How great is that? Your editor, Danielle Perez, called one day

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Stella Fosse

We Are All Zebras Now

We Are All Zebras Now “I’d rather not renew your prescription for hormone replacement therapy because it increases the risk of stroke,” said my doctor. Which was ironic, given what happened next. But even during that phone call I was not convinced. “From the literature, it looks like overall mortality is the same with or without HRT, and quality of life is higher with HRT.” “You might be more likely to break a bone without

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