Who Says Erotica is Porn?

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Who Says Erotica is Porn? I got into a minor spat with a romance writer one day.  She was talking online about how much writing romance means to her as an older woman, which I totally understand.  Just like writing erotica, writing romance for older women has that wonderful ability to bring our stories to […]

Ubuntu – I Am Because We Are

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Ubuntu – I Am Because We Are After six months of pandemic, it’s clear that this strange time exacerbates fear and brings out the human tendency to distance ourselves, to label one another as “Other”. It is easy to see when a group I belong to is labeled Other. When the health risks to older […]

Life in the Third Act with Plague

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Life in the Third Act with Plague. What it’s like to get what you want in a pandemic I recently read a fabulous article [registration required] by Caitlin Moran with the subtitle “Goodbye, nice, jolly, happy Caitlin. Hello, angry Caitlin.” Moran’s premise is that women spend most of our adult lives drunk on a biochemical cocktail […]

Different Boats – Same Ocean

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Different Boats – Same Ocean I recently gave a sermon at my UU church and it struck me afterwards how aligned it was with my Manifesto  – with the exception that I have, since, moved on to grey hair.  Of course, it should be aligned.  The same experiences and life events shaped me and my […]

Dare to Enjoy

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Dare to Enjoy It is easy for me to notice when I am wronged as a woman, as an older person; it is much harder to notice my privilege.  And when I do glimpse my privilege it can be difficult to remain in joy. I am looking out the window of my study in the […]

Pandemic Strategies – What Can a Sexy Old Woman Do?

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Pandemic Strategies – What Can a Sexy Old Woman Do? Did you ever expect to see an official government document recommend sexting and sending sexy pictures?  Neither did I.  But among the many plot twists of the last few months we have this official memo from New York City on how to enjoy sexuality without […]