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Stella Fosse

The Surprising Bliss of the Non-Consumer

The Surprising Bliss of the Non-Consumer One of the best things I’ve done lately is to set up a weekly conversation with an accountability buddy.  I talked about doing this for years but just started during shutdown—partly because video calls make it easy, and partly because other things disappeared off my calendar. My accountability buddy is not part of my household.  This turns out to be key.  I don’t sit across the breakfast table wondering

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Stella Fosse

Different Boats – Same Ocean

Different Boats – Same Ocean I recently gave a sermon at my UU church and it struck me afterwards how aligned it was with my Manifesto  – with the exception that I have, since, moved on to grey hair.  Of course, it should be aligned.  The same experiences and life events shaped me and my alter ego Stella in identical ways, as you would expect. The title I chose ‘Different Boats – Same Ocean’ is

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Stella Fosse

News Flash – Diamonds Upstaged by Sex Toys

Diamonds Upstaged by Sex Toys   They say that a dog is a man’s best friend.  They say diamonds are a girl’s best friend. But a woman’s best friends are her sex toys.   Don’t you wish you owned a sex toy company?  As the pandemic continues, sales are way up both for conventional sex toys and for the (previously underperforming) teledildonics market.  In case you’re wondering, “teledildonics” refers to Bluetooth-enabled sex toys that allow

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Stella Fosse

Dare to Enjoy

Dare to Enjoy It is easy for me to notice when I am wronged as a woman, as an older person; it is much harder to notice my privilege.  And when I do glimpse my privilege it can be difficult to remain in joy. I am looking out the window of my study in the North Carolina woods.  It’s sunrise and the light is blue and yellow behind the black outlines of leafy trees.  A

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Stella Fosse

Pandemic Strategies – What Can a Sexy Old Woman Do?

Pandemic Strategies – What Can a Sexy Old Woman Do? Did you ever expect to see an official government document recommend sexting and sending sexy pictures?  Neither did I.  But among the many plot twists of the last few months we have this official memo from New York City on how to enjoy sexuality without spreading COVID-19.  It’s all about the joys of masturbation, video dates, sexting and chat rooms. Taking it even further, the

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Stella Fosse

A burlesque performer, a pole dancer and an erotic writer…

A burlesque performer, a pole dancer and an erotic writer walk into a… It sounds like the start of a corny joke!  In fact we were all part of a video interview with the editor of a European magazine for women over forty. And that’s how I found myself in a truly remarkable conversation with dancers Judith Vandepeer and Makeda Smith, hosted by Michela Di Carlo of CrunchyTales Magazine.  In ordinary life, CrunchyTales holds in-person panel

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