Who Says Erotica is Porn?

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Who Says Erotica is Porn? I got into a minor spat with a romance writer one day.  She was talking online about how much writing romance means to her as an older woman, which I totally understand.  Just like writing erotica, writing romance for older women has that wonderful ability to bring our stories to […]

Ubuntu – I Am Because We Are

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Ubuntu – I Am Because We Are After six months of pandemic, it’s clear that this strange time exacerbates fear and brings out the human tendency to distance ourselves, to label one another as “Other”. It is easy to see when a group I belong to is labeled Other. When the health risks to older […]

Life in the Third Act with Plague

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Life in the Third Act with Plague. What it’s like to get what you want in a pandemic I recently read a fabulous article [registration required] by Caitlin Moran with the subtitle “Goodbye, nice, jolly, happy Caitlin. Hello, angry Caitlin.” Moran’s premise is that women spend most of our adult lives drunk on a biochemical cocktail […]

What I Did Not Know About Racism

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My guest blogger Mirinda Kossoff, who grew up in small-town Danville, VA, shares a powerful recollection in What I Did Not Know About Racism of what it was like to grow up in the South one hundred years after the Civil War. She has lived and worked in Japan and England as well as the […]

Dare to Enjoy

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Dare to Enjoy It is easy for me to notice when I am wronged as a woman, as an older person; it is much harder to notice my privilege.  And when I do glimpse my privilege it can be difficult to remain in joy. I am looking out the window of my study in the […]

Learning and Sex Until Rigor Mortis

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Learning and Sex Until Rigor Mortis The Life of Maggie Kuhn We sit at home in the pandemic with the one job of keeping our breath separate from the breaths of strangers. This gives us time to make friends with the books on our shelves that had been passing acquaintances. Intrigued by a few famous […]