Who Says Erotica is Porn?

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Who Says Erotica is Porn? I got into a minor spat with a romance writer one day.  She was talking online about how much writing romance means to her as an older woman, which I totally understand.  Just like writing erotica, writing romance for older women has that wonderful ability to bring our stories to […]

Ubuntu – I Am Because We Are

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Ubuntu – I Am Because We Are After six months of pandemic, it’s clear that this strange time exacerbates fear and brings out the human tendency to distance ourselves, to label one another as “Other”. It is easy to see when a group I belong to is labeled Other. When the health risks to older […]

The Surprising Bliss of the Non-Consumer

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The Surprising Bliss of the Non-Consumer One of the best things I’ve done lately is to set up a weekly conversation with an accountability buddy.  I talked about doing this for years but just started during shutdown—partly because video calls make it easy, and partly because other things disappeared off my calendar. My accountability buddy […]

Pandemic Strategies – What Can a Sexy Old Woman Do?

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Pandemic Strategies – What Can a Sexy Old Woman Do? Did you ever expect to see an official government document recommend sexting and sending sexy pictures?  Neither did I.  But among the many plot twists of the last few months we have this official memo from New York City on how to enjoy sexuality without […]

Pandemic Dreams

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Pandemic Dreams It is two years from now. I am in California for my youngest daughter’s college graduation. In a large auditorium, crowds of people sit or stand cheek by jowl. Everyone talks a mile a minute, happy to be out after two years in quarantine. They dressed up for the occasion but have totally […]

Learning and Sex Until Rigor Mortis

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Learning and Sex Until Rigor Mortis The Life of Maggie Kuhn We sit at home in the pandemic with the one job of keeping our breath separate from the breaths of strangers. This gives us time to make friends with the books on our shelves that had been passing acquaintances. Intrigued by a few famous […]