The Musings & Ponderings of Stella (And Friends)

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Stella Fosse

If Thy Uterus Offend Thee

If Thy Uterus Offend Thee… According to author Deborah Copaken, Nora Ephron had three rules for middle aged happiness: “Gather friends and feed them, laugh in the face of calamity, and cut out all the things––people, jobs, body parts––that no longer serve you.” And by body parts, Ephron meant one in particular: “The only thing a uterus is good for after a certain point is causing pain and killing you.” Amen, sister. Have you reached

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Paula Usrey

No Longer Invisible: Empowered After Fifty

No Longer Invisible: Empowered After Fifty When in my early sixties, I sensed something had shifted—I felt like people ignored me more often. When I went shopping, I noticed it became harder to get salespeople’s attention; sometimes, they acted like they couldn’t see me. I felt demeaned when a dental assistant referred to me as “sweetie” while putting her hand on my lower back as though guiding me toward an examination room. Other times, people

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A Late Valentine for Late Bloomers
Stella Fosse

A Late Valentine for Late Bloomers

A Late Valentine for Late Bloomers February, with its hearts and flowers, is a great month to consider what each of us wants romantically, sensually, and sexually. After all, we are born to be creative and sensual. It’s no surprise that studies show that sex after sixty is good for us. It improves our heart health, lowers our stress, and promotes our well-being in many other ways, from decreased pain to better sleep.  As Maggie

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Kathy Labriola

Polyamorous Elders: Aging in Open Relationships

Polyamorous Elders: Aging in Open Relationships If polyamory is new or unfamiliar to you, you aren’t alone! Until a few years ago, most people who practiced any relationship style other than monogamy were very discreet and kept their polyamorous lives private. Nonmonogamous relationships were treated with disapproval at best, or fear and contempt at worst. Recently there has been more media attention on these less traditional relationship forms and more poly people have “come out

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Stella Fosse

4 Ways You Can Be Fit Old and Fat

4 Ways You Can Be Fit Old and Fat My friend Nancy is in her eighties and obsessed with her weight. A small woman, Nancy is intent on becoming even smaller. She meets with a nutritionist and restricts her calorie intake, believing that this will improve her health and prolong her life. At lunch she judges her own food choices and what others are eating. Although she is ambulatory, Nancy moves very little. The idea

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Patricia Grayhall

Defying Norms in Love and Medicine

Making the Rounds: Defying Norms in Love and Medicine In 2022 we featured guest essays by several women memoirists. These blogs are windows onto lives lived in parallel with ours.  Billie Best gave her perspective on caring for a dying philanderer when she wrote about her book, How I Made a Huge Mess of My Life, or Couples Therapy with a Dead Man. Carolyn Arnold shared the genesis of her memoir, Fifty First Dates After

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