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Pandemic Strategies – What Can a Sexy Old Woman Do?

Pandemic Strategies – What Can a Sexy Old Woman Do? Did you ever expect to see an official government document recommend sexting and sending sexy pictures?  Neither did I.  But among the many plot twists of the last few months we have this official memo from New York City on how to enjoy sexuality without spreading COVID-19.  It’s all about the joys of masturbation, video dates, sexting and chat rooms. Taking it even further, the

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A burlesque performer, a pole dancer and an erotic writer…

A burlesque performer, a pole dancer and an erotic writer walk into a… It sounds like the start of a corny joke!  In fact we were all part of a video interview with the editor of a European magazine for women over forty. And that’s how I found myself in a truly remarkable conversation with dancers Judith Vandepeer and Makeda Smith, hosted by Michela Di Carlo of CrunchyTales Magazine.  In ordinary life, CrunchyTales holds in-person panel

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Pandemic Dreams

Pandemic Dreams It is two years from now. I am in California for my youngest daughter’s college graduation. In a large auditorium, crowds of people sit or stand cheek by jowl. Everyone talks a mile a minute, happy to be out after two years in quarantine. They dressed up for the occasion but have totally lost their fashion sense. Horrid pastels are everywhere; even the men’s suits are powder blue or mauve. Everyone looks pasty

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Learning and Sex Until Rigor Mortis

Learning and Sex Until Rigor Mortis The Life of Maggie Kuhn We sit at home in the pandemic with the one job of keeping our breath separate from the breaths of strangers. This gives us time to make friends with the books on our shelves that had been passing acquaintances. Intrigued by a few famous quotes from Maggie Kuhn, founder of the Gray Panthers, I ordered her autobiography some time ago. It joined the ranks

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Stress and Sex in the Time of Pandemic

Scaring Our Pants Off – Stress and Sex in the Time of Pandemic This is not the blog I planned for today.  I was planning to publish an interview with Melanie Davis, the author of an excellent new sexual education program for older adults. I look forward to running Melanie’s interview when the time is right.  In the interview, Melanie explains that one of the main benefits of that program compared with reading a book

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Now You See Her – Now You Don’t.

Now You See Her – Now You Don’t It was not the threat of cancer that made me stop dyeing my hair.  Sure, I saw those studies, but no, it was nothing that sensible.  I would read articles by women proudly going gray and think, You go for it, ladies — not my thing. I was into that conspicuously false display of reproductive fitness we create when we dye our gray hair blonde (see my

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