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Stella Fosse

Stress and Sex in the Time of Pandemic

Scaring Our Pants Off – Stress and Sex in the Time of Pandemic This is not the blog I planned for today.  I was planning to publish an interview with Melanie Davis, the author of an excellent new sexual education program for older adults. I look forward to running Melanie’s interview when the time is right.  In the interview, Melanie explains that one of the main benefits of that program compared with reading a book

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Stella Fosse

Now You See Her – Now You Don’t.

Now You See Her – Now You Don’t It was not the threat of cancer that made me stop dyeing my hair.  Sure, I saw those studies, but no, it was nothing that sensible.  I would read articles by women proudly going gray and think, You go for it, ladies — not my thing. I was into that conspicuously false display of reproductive fitness we create when we dye our gray hair blonde (see my

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The Spectrum of Sex

The Spectrum of Sex By one of those odd life quirks that happen now and then Professor Nieto was (in real life) one of my key influencers, teachers, mentors and guides during my studies for my MS in Cell and Molecular Biology a mere thirty years ago.  I’m delighted our paths have crossed again!  My conversation with Dr. Nieto is below. Hida Viloria, a leading intersex activist, and Maria Nieto, a scholar in the biological

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Sexuality Down the Decades

Sexuality Down the Decades The 1940s: Good Little Girls Don’t . . . One of my earliest memories is sitting on the floor in a doorway; I am three or four. It must have been a typically hot and humid Florida day, and it was before air conditioning. I am wearing only panties. My hand must have slipped inside them. Perhaps it felt good. An adult hand swooped down, and pulled my hand out from

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Including Ourselves in the Circle of Care

Including Ourselves in the Circle of Care Three of my children were preschoolers at the same time. If you’ve lived through that phase of life, you probably don’t remember much, because you were too busy coping with each moment to reflect and store away memories. I do recall women whose children were already grown telling me to take care of myself; that I would be a better mother to my children if I reserved time

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Make Revolution Not Porn

Make Revolution Not Porn I don’t watch porn. Not even the home-grown, fully consensual, amateur porn on Cindy Gallop’s website, MakeLoveNotPorn (MLNP). So I might seem an unlikely fan of Ms. Gallop, the almost-60-year-old former advertising executive whose main claim to fame is starting MLNP. And after being at the receiving end of various campaigns against fat people, white women, and Boomers, I am also uncomfortable with labeling and writing off everyone in a group

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