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Including Ourselves in the Circle of Care

Including Ourselves in the Circle of Care Three of my children were preschoolers at the same time. If you’ve lived through that phase of life, you probably don’t remember much, because you were too busy coping with each moment to reflect and store away memories. I do recall women whose children were already grown telling me to take care of myself; that I would be a better mother to my children if I reserved time

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Make Revolution Not Porn

Make Revolution Not Porn I don’t watch porn. Not even the home-grown, fully consensual, amateur porn on Cindy Gallop’s website, MakeLoveNotPorn (MLNP). So I might seem an unlikely fan of Ms. Gallop, the almost-60-year-old former advertising executive whose main claim to fame is starting MLNP. And after being at the receiving end of various campaigns against fat people, white women, and Boomers, I am also uncomfortable with labeling and writing off everyone in a group

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Meet Crunchytales Founder Michela Di Carlo

Meet Crunchytales founder Michela Di Carlo Crunchytales is an online magazine designed to inspire women over forty to lead playful and fascinating lives. Crunchytales’ confident pledge is “We are on a mission to reset the meaning of middle-age.” If you have not yet checked out CrunchyTales, you are in for a treat. Take a look at its vivid visuals, terrific interviews, and incisive articles on everything from creativity to travel to food and wine & volunteering.   And

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Top 10 Reasons Women Over 50 Should Write Erotica

Top 10 Reasons Women Over 50 Should Write Erotica Ever since I wrote Aphrodite’s Pen: The Power of Writing Erotica after Midlife, older women who haven’t yet written erotica have asked me to break it down. Effectively, the question is “What’s in it for me?” Here are my top 10 reasons women over 50 should write erotica. 1. Writing erotica is liberating. Anything can happen on the page. When we write, we play master of

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Implanted Stories and the Aging of Female Boomers

Once Upon Our Time Implanted Stories and the Aging of Female Boomers Think back for a moment on Snow White and her nameless wicked queen, from 1937; Cinderella and her stepmother, from 1950; Sleeping Beauty and Maleficent, from 1959. What a terrible career path – and more importantly, life path –  we were given as girls: the progression from young/beautiful/passive/good, to old/ugly/strong/bad. Neither of these fixed combinations is something we would stand in line for

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Lioness in Winter: Sheri S. Tepper

Lioness in Winter: Sheri S. Tepper When I was forty, in the midst of raising children and being a corporate drone, I read Gate to Women’s Country by Sheri S. Tepper. Gate, published in 1988, is an audacious book. I had grown up in the heyday of male-centric post-apocalyptic science fiction. By contrast, Tepper’s novel is fully female-centric. It is set in a dystopian future where women craft uncomfortable solutions to the human dilemmas of

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